Navigating Networking as an Introvert

Two days. A conference hall filled with people. Conversations happening at every corner. A panel discussion where I wanted to ask a question. A networking session with new faces. For many, this might sound exciting. For an introvert like me, it was tiring even before it started.

I’ve always known that public speaking and open discussions are not my most comfortable spaces. The anticipation of networking, the pressure to make meaningful conversations, and the energy it takes to stay present, it can feel overwhelming. But this time, I approached it differently.

Noticing My Triggers Instead of Letting Them Take Over

I began by paying attention to what, exactly, was making me feel drained. Was it the fear of saying the wrong thing? The discomfort of speaking up in a large group? The mental load of sustaining conversations? Once I could name my triggers, I could coach myself through them.

• Before the event: I reminded myself that I did not have to “perform” in every interaction. I just needed to be present.

• During panel discussions: Instead of overthinking my question, I focused on curiosity—"What am I genuinely interested in learning?"

• In networking sessions: I gave myself permission to take breaks and pace my energy instead of forcing myself into constant conversations.

It wasn’t perfect. There were still moments of exhaustion and self-doubt. But with practice and the right support, I managed my energy better.

Growth is in the Practice, Not Perfection—And I Do Not Have to Do It Alone

This experience reminded me that self-awareness is the first step, but managing discomfort takes practice. Even as a coach, I’m still learning. Some days I apply my techniques well, other days, my old patterns take over. And that is okay. One thing I’ve learned is this: you don’t have to figure it all out by yourself.

So often, we believe that confidence and presence are things we should master alone, as if struggling with them means we are not "good enough." The truth is, growth happens in connection, through guidance, and with the right support.

If you have ever felt out of place in certain spaces, struggled with confidence in conversations, or found networking to be more exhausting than energising—you’re not alone.

The key I learned is not to force yourself to be someone you are not, but to develop strategies that work for you at your own pace, in your own way. Coaching can help with that. So, the next time you step into a space that feels challenging, ask yourself:

✔ What about this situation is draining me?
✔ What’s one small way I can manage my energy better?
✔ How can I reframe this from pressure to opportunity?
✔ Who can I turn to for guidance and support?

The more we practice, the more we grow. And growth is not about being fearless, it is about moving forward despite the fear, knowing you do not have to do it alone.